I recently bought a new CD for my Birthday present to me…I listened to a few of the songs and wondered if it was worth spending that $32. I didn’t FEEL anything.
I realised that this isn’t anything new. It has always taken time for a new piece of music to “grow on me”. Why is this?
Well, I believe that we create a relationship with music just as we do with people. When you meet someone for the very first time you look, listen, feel into them, work out whether or not you resonate with each other…then decided whether or not you want to pursue the relationship any further. From here you may call the person again, see them again, talk, go out..basically get to know each other on a deeper level each time.
It is the same with hearing a piece of music for the first time. You may listen to it in the car, as you go for a walk, you may dance to it with your lover, you may use it to soothe your baby to sleep and the list could go on and on. In both situations you will be deepening the relationship and creating new memories connected to the music or person each time.
Then, in twenty years time when you bump into the person or now friend again, your whole being remembers what you had together as if it happened yesturday. This is the same as if you hear that piece of music again…the memories you created together come flooding back and you experience the same feelings as what you did twenty years earlier.
For example, the other day I was showing my kids who Kylie Minogue is on utube and I heard “I Should Be So Lucky” for the first time in 20 + years! In those days (I find it hard to admit) I went through a Kylie Minogue phase, so hearing this music again bought tears to my eyes… It bought me straight back into my family home with those young teenager feelings… No wonder elderly people light up when they hear songs they used to dance to with their friends and lovers in the “good old days”. Music takes us straight back.
So remember this as you sing or listen to the same song over and over and over again as you put your baby to sleep or keep your toddler happy in the car… One day you will hear this music again and all the lovely memories and feelings will come flooding back…and you may also shed a few tears.
Nicole Lloyd B(Mus) is a mother of four girls and creator of SoundBirth. Here she shares her experiences using sound before, during and after the birth and anything else about sound or birth that she feels like writing about!